There are three stages to transformation: Awareness, Willingness, & Massive Persistent Consistent Action. Today we are going to analyze the second step, Willingness, because it is not as cut and dry as one might think. Willingness can be divvied up into two separate categories of willingness: absolute willingness vs. conditional willingness. Let’s take a look at the differences between the two, and why which one you use is either playing a vital role in  your progress, or inhibiting it altogether.

Absolute vs. Conditional Willingness – What’s the Difference?

Absolute willingness is the willingness to do absolutely anything to achieve your goal. This one is pretty simple. If your child is in danger, you will do whatever it takes to get them to safety – no if, ands, or buts, about it. Conditional willingness on the other hand, is telling yourself that you will do anything it takes to achieve a goal (much like absolute willingness), but when it boils down to what you actually need to do, you decide, “I’ll do anything, BUT that.” 

Conditional willingness seduces us into thinking what we want is attainable and proving us wrong, whereas absolute willingness is the “I will do whatever it takes, no matter what” attitude and it pays off consistently. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you will lie, cheat, steal, or violate your own morals, but you will make things work in a way where you try the best that you possibly can regardless of the external forces coming your way. Excuses are easily made when you have conditional willingness. Those that have conditional willingness typically help rationalize their excuses by reaching out to like-minded friends and family that confirm their excuses as valid. This helps you feel better in the short-term, but it’s a form of denial that trickles into a pit of self-victimization.

Why It Matters

Conditional willingness is most definitely the easier option (aka “the easy way out”) and also the easiest way to fall short of achieving your dreams. 

Absolute willingness leads to increased self-esteem, self-actualization, and achievement in all aspects of your life. One might think, “Well, why would I strive for more? Isn’t what I already have, good enough?” And yes, your current state of being is something you should be proud of and grateful for, but yearning for more out of life isn’t something that should be frowned upon. We should all want more for our relationships, our families, and for ourselves because we deserve it. Without the burning desire to become better versions of ourselves, our mind will trick us into believing stories and reasonings for why we aren’t getting what we want out of life. In actuality, we have all the tools necessary to make drastic change in our lives and within ourselves, by doing what needs to be done. Using absolute willingness will transport you to the life that you want and deserve.

Hear Joe Describe Absolute Willingness vs. Conditional Willingness

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